by Elder David F. Evans and Elder Adilson de Paula Parrella
Two separate talks but one message that ties them together.
by Elder David F. Evans and Elder Adilson de Paula Parrella
Two separate talks but one message that ties them together.
by President Russell M. Nelson and ElderIan S. Ardern
The most striking thing about President Nelson’s talk the day he delivered it was his quiet way of showing how to sustain a prophet of God. His whole talk focused on how he took President Monson’s last conference talk and applied it. What a great example! Continue reading
by President Thomas S. Monson
If you knew you couldn’t say much, would that affect the words you choose to say? Continue reading
by Elder Gary E Stevenson
Below is the link to the General Conference talk by Elder Stevenson. Between the link and here I share a few of my personal thoughts on the subject.
I love reading the Book of Mormon! I love that it helps me focus more on Christ and becoming a better disciple of Christ because I need all the help I can get. I have read the book almost daily since I was in high school and I still learn from it. Continue reading
Let me tell you about one of my heroes in the Book of Mormon. His name is Pahoran. We know relatively little about him. He was the third Chief Judge for the Nephites after he took his dad’s place. His father Nephihah was made Chief Judge by the prophet Alma after Alma devoted himself solely to the ministry. His sons teach us a lesson about following leadership. One of his sons is indirectly responsible for the birth of the Gadianton Robbers. The same robbers that become the civilization’s doom later on. So, basically relatively little.
What I read….
…and the Lord said –
“It is time to cross the sea
to the promised land
prepared by my hand for the free.
“Granddaughter,” Rebekah heard the older, familiar voice call to her. “Come here, please.”
The eleven year old glanced at her grandmother who was sitting in the shade by their adobe hut which served as a home for her, her older brother, her parents, and her grandmother. Rebekah looked back at the trail that led down to the creek where her friends were gathering to refresh themselves from the summer heat. At first, she thought of continuing her trip down the trail, but she knew better than to ignore her grandmother. Again. It was a lesson she had learned the hard way.
Letting out an audible sigh, she changed her direction and walked over to the venerable woman that sat smiling at her.
“Yes, Grandmother?” Rebekah asked with her head down and making sure the disappointment colored her voice just a little, but not enough to get her into trouble for complaining.
“Ah,” her grandmother said still smiling, “it is nice to see you can learn to obey. Your father will be well pleased.”
Rebekah resented the fact that her shortcomings were common knowledge and looked at her grandmother. She could feel her small face become red with anger, but she dared not say anything.
“And you are learning to control your temper. A feat many in the village thought could not be done!” her grandmother exclaimed as she smiled and tipped her head back.
Rebekah glanced furtively at the trail that disappeared behind the village and wished even more to still be on it.
Her grandmother grew serious. “It is time you and I take a walk.” Rebekah looked at her grandmother just as the elderly woman slowly stood on her feet. “Come,” she said as she held out her hand. “Walk with me before you join your friends.”
There was little else Rebekah could do but to take the skinny, wrinkled hand extended to her and walk beside the frail woman. As they walked, her grandmother leaned on the young girl slightly, who was already the same height as her, to support herself. What time had done to the grandmother’s aging body to slow it down had not touched her mind in the least. Her eyes darted around from one thing to another noticing everything and enjoying the colorful flowers and all the little animals in the dense forest.
When the two had moved far enough away from the village, her grandmother’s voice grew serious. “I saw you today,” she spoke softly as she stopped walking and looked into her granddaughter’s eyes.
“What do you mean, Grandmother?”
“I saw you making fun of Jacob with the other children today.”
Rebekah lowered her head as she thought about the events that had happened earlier that day. “Oh,” she said softly.
“Would you care to explain?”
“The others always make fun of him. They say it is his own fault he was born the way he is. That he must have done something wrong in the great pre-life to be born with his lame foot and blind eyes. They say he is dirty and evil and if I touch him, I will catch his evil spirit.”
Her grandmother continued to look at her almost as if trying to stare into her soul. At least, that’s what Rebekah thought. “First of all,” the older woman sounded loving yet firm, “that is untrue. Every bit of it is untrue. Do you believe me?”
Even though the young girl found these lectures from her grandmother a great inconvenience, she knew better than to disagree with her. She nodded her head once, slowly in agreement.
Her grandmother smiled at her. “Here, let us find a place to sit down while we talk.” Rebekah found a log for the two to sit on and made sure her grandmother was comfortable. “There are always two voices in everyone’s head,” the old woman said. “One is the voice of self, it makes sure that the self is taken care of. Although it is important to listen to, it must not drown out the other voice, the voice of service. This too is an important voice, it tells us to help those around us. When we listen to both voices in the proper way, our lives become harmonious, like a beautiful song, and we are happy.”
Rebekah listened to her grandmother’s words and promised she would try harder to listen to both voices instead of just the self voice.
The next day, Rebekah was walking with one of her friends to the meadow where a group of their friends were meeting, when she heard her grandmother call for her. Instinctively, she rolled her eyes before turning to the elderly woman. “Yes, Grandmother?” she asked nervously.
The wise old woman smiled at her and said, “Come.”
Her granddaughter looked at her friend, who could do nothing more than give her a look of sympathy. Rebekah watched her friend for a moment continue down the path before she slowly walked to the patiently waiting woman. “Yes, grandmother?” she asked again.
“Come,” was again the only reply as the old woman held out her hand. Rebekah helped her grandmother stand and they walked in the same direction as the day before. When they came to the same clearing they had stopped at on their previous walk, the old woman sat down on the log again. Her granddaughter sat down beside her and waited quietly for what was to come.
“I saw you today.”
Rebekah could not help herself and let out an audible sigh. “I did not make fun of Jacob today. I did not make fun of anybody today. In fact, I’ve tried really hard to be good.”
Her grandmother smiled sweetly at her. “I know of your efforts. I saw that you did not join in with the others when they made fun of him today.” She stared into Rebekah’s eyes for a moment. “But I also watched as you passed by Jacob without stopping, even though he was crying out for help.”
“But I tried to be good. I really did. I thought of helping him, I heard the voice of service inside my head to do so, but then, I also heard the self voice disguised as my friends’ voices in my head, and…” she looked down. At the time it happened, her reason for not stopping made perfect sense. But now, it was hard for her to defend herself.
“I would like to share a story with you,” her grandmother spoke softly.
Rebekah’s eyes lit up. Her grandmother knew her granddaughter’s weakness was hearing stories. The young girl could sit and listen for hours if somebody would tell her a story that long. She eagerly nodded her head for her grandmother to continue.
The wise old woman closed her eyes and her words came slowly at first. “This is a story that I heard when I was a young girl at the Great Meeting.” Her eyes opened and they were clear and vivid. “It was told to me by an angel as I sat on his lap. I have remembered this lesson and tried to live it in my everyday life.
“A Nephite went down from Zarahemla and fell among some Gadianton Robbers. These robbers stripped him of his clothes, wounded him, and left him for dead.
“By chance, there came a Chief Judge who passed by. But he crossed over to the other side of the road and continued on his way without stopping.
“A little later, a priest came along. He did not stop either, but continued hastily on his way.
“But a certain Lamanite, as he came along the road had compassion on him. He went to him, and bound up his wounds, put him upon his own beast, and took him to an inn.
“The next day, the Lamanite departed but left the innkeeper two silver senums and told him to take care of the Nephite. He promised if the innkeeper spent more than what he had left, he would pay him back when he traveled back through the land.”
Her grandmother paused for a moment but did not take her eyes from Rebekah’s. “Then the angel asked me which of the three provided this man the greatest service?”
Rebekah noticed her grandmother waiting for a reply. “The Lamanite,” she said softly. Even though there were no more so-called Lamanites and Nephites in the land, she had grown up hearing stories and reading the sacred books that described what life was like before the Great Meeting. She knew enough to know the two groups of people were bitter enemies and despised each other.
“That’s right,” her grandmother smiled. “I will tell you what the angel told me, ‘Go and do thou likewise.’”
The young girl listened intently to the wise woman’s words. “Go and do thou likewise,” she repeated softly.
Her grandmother smiled. “That means listening to service’s voice, even if other voices try to crowd it out. But the thought is the seed, the act is the fruition. Just as planting a fruit tree does no good until it bears fruit, service does not do any good when it remains a thought. The harvest comes with the action.”
Rebekah nodded her head once. The old woman’s words sunk into her heart as she thought of their meaning.
“Come,” her grandmother took her hand. “It is time for you to join your friends.”
The next day, Rebekah ran to her grandmother. “Grandmother, Grandmother,” she called out. The elderly woman came to the door as fast as she could. “Come,” her young granddaughter said as she reached her hand out for the old woman’s hand.
The old woman obligingly walked with the excited little girl to the same spot as the previous two days. Her curiosity was piqued, but she waited for her granddaughter to explain.
“Grandmother,” the young girl said, “I think I understand now what you have been trying to teach me.”
Her grandmother continued to look at her, unsure of where the conversation was leading.
“I saw Jacob today, while I was with my friends. We started to walk by him as usual, but I heard the voice in my head again telling me to stop and help. Quickly, the self voice came also, but this time, I pushed it aside as you said, and I didn’t listen to it. At first, my friends thought I was getting ready to play a joke on him so they stopped and watched me. But when they saw I was trying to help him, their curiosity became greater and they came over to us to see what was going on. When a whole group of us were gathered, Jacob told us a marvelous story, Grandmother, that made me feel so good inside. This is what he said:
‘I have been on this great earth for many years. I can remember when most of your parents were born. Many of your grandparents are friends of mine. Have they told you the story? Do you know and understand what a blessed people we are?
‘I remember the time of great wars and destruction. When our people divided into tribes based on families and how we banded together to get rid of the robbers. I was a young boy then, but I remember it well.
‘I also remember the great earthquakes and darkness that lasted for three days. A darkness so thick and so great, it is hard for you to understand. Though I was born into a dark world, even I could feel this darkness. I remember lying on the ground with my family, for there was not much else we could do, and hearing the groans and moans of people throughout all the land. Those three days were the longest in my life as I sat with the others and waited, and listened.
‘During those three days of darkness, I thought I would die, if I hadn’t already. Perhaps, I thought, I have already passed on and this is the great after life.
‘Then, in my darkest despair, a most marvelous thing happened. A voice from heaven was heard. His voice which brought the greatest comfort and feeling.
‘At the end of the three days, after it had again become light, my father carried me, as he led the rest of my family to the temple. We were among those that decided to gather there to find out what we should do next. Listen very carefully to what I say next because this is the most exciting part of my story. You see, while we were there, Jesus Christ himself came and taught those of us gathered there. Do each of you hear and understand what I am saying? I was there when our Savior came.
‘After He had taught us many wonderful things, He told us to go home and prepare ourselves for the next day because He would come back and teach us more. I was so sad that the day had come to an end. There must have been others who felt the same way, because instead of leaving, He took pity on us. He asked us to bring all our sick and afflicted to him.. He could have left, there was work to be done, but He asked for us to come to Him.
‘My father carried me to Him. I was very excited because I knew He had the power to help me see and to let me walk. More than anything, I wanted to be able to run with the other children my age. When it came time for Him to lay His hands on me, I heard His gentle voice ask, ‘Jacob, what is it thou desires?’ Instead of saying that I wanted to be healed, I remained quiet. I thought that I had wanted to be healed more than anything, but another thought crept into my mind, and I could not answer.
‘Jacob,’ my father said trying to get me to reply.
‘I heard the Savior’s voice again. ‘He desires a far greater thing than you realize.’ And I thought I heard him wipe away a tear.
‘Father,’ I said, ‘I desire to help other people find the Savior as we have found Him. I will keep my blind eyes and lame foot and others will find the Savior through service to me.’
‘My father carried me back to my family and explained what had happened. Many tears were shed that day, but none so great as mine for I had truly been given a great gift.’
Rebekah finished the narrative and looked at her grandmother with tears in her eyes. “I have learned, to serve others is to show our love for our Savior.”
It took a moment before her grandmother could speak. “Granddaughter,” she said softly with tears in her eyes, “you have done well. Remember this feeling you feel right now, because the self voice will always attempt to overpower service’s voice. Remember your feelings. Remember Jacob’s words. Remember my teachings.”
The two embraced and hugged tightly.
© 2014 ck’s days
There’s a lot clamoring for attention in this world. Especially this time of year. Sometimes our lives are noisy and every one of us is busy, busy, busy. We make commitments and overbook ourselves. So why would I ask you to add one more thing to your plate? What gives me the audacity to give you one more commitment? Let me answer with a question. Suppose you were having a birthday party with all your friends and family. Halfway through the celebration, somebody brings out a huge cake with to-die-for frosting. It is by far the most delicious cake you have ever tasted. When you bite into it, little tiny angels start floating around your head while singing the hallelujah chorus. It warms your whole body from the tip of your tiny toe to the top of your head. Now, that’s good cake. Are you going to share or are you going to let everyone just watch you eat? Me? I’m going to share my cake – let me explain why.
Here’s some good news: we do have something to help us in our journey. Even better news, we have more than just one option when it comes to navigation aids. And the best news: all of life’s navigation tools are available to each of us. We just have to utilize them. There are a couple of things to remember that might provide comfort. One: we are not here by accident. This means our lives are purposeful. And two, we have a cheering squad. Someone wants us to return to a very specific destination – home. Because of this, we have navigation tools at our disposal. One of the very important tools within our reach is the scriptures.
The scriptures are a very useful tool. When I start feeling like I’m all alone in the great big world and nobody cares one iota what I do, the scriptures are a ready reference of love. They remind me of God’s dealings with man since the beginning of time. He has always wanted mankind to succeed. He has always wanted me to succeed. By reading the scriptures I learn of Heavenly Father’s plan to rescue me.
Through my studies, I have become familiar with certain scriptures. My list grew slowly over time. At first, I had a Top Six list. Until I realized there were actually seven scriptures in my Top Six Scriptures. For the purposes of this writing, I decided to add a few more to round out my list to ten. Ten scriptures I can turn to when I know I should read but I’m not in the mood to read. Ten succinct reminders of who I am even on dark days of doubt. Ten ways to adjust my attitude. Ten messages of love when I forget what love feels like and I want to give in to the “Oh, woest me,” syndrome. I refer to them as my “Top Ten.”
My Top 10 now range from a line, to a verse, to a whole chapter. Here’s my list.
First, let’s start at the beginning. What do I need to do?
King Benjamin continued, “Believe that he is, and that he created all things.” Henry Wadsworth Longfellow wrote, “God is not dead, nor doth he sleep” (I Heard the Bells on Christmas Day). Remember, God is, not was.
“He created all things, both in heaven and in earth,” King Benjamin testified of one of God’s roles. God is my creator and as such, He has a personal interest in my welfare.
“Believe he has all wisdom and all power, both in heaven and in earth.” He is the safest source to trust because He knows everything. Not only that, but He is the source of all light and truth.
“Believe that man doth not comprehend all the things which the Lord can comprehend.” I don’t understand everything. There are a lot of things I can’t explain. But that’s okay. This verse tells me, I may not understand, but I can choose to believe. As I choose to believe in God, my understanding will open up line upon line, precept upon precept. But for now, I begin with the first step: “Believe in God.”
Why would God care for me?
Enoch asked the Lord, “How is it thou canst weep?” Why was God weeping over the fate of sinners?
The answer is one of the great demonstrations of God’s love. “Behold…they are the workmanship of mine own hands. Should not the heavens weep, seeing these shall suffer?” The people that Enoch saw were the people who perished in the great flood. But that was only the beginning of their suffering because they exercised their agency to choose poorly. They would also have to spend time in spirit prison. A typical human response might be, “They got what they deserved.”
But God sees his children differently. He knew because of their poor choices, their lives – their probationary time to repent – would be cut short. They would have to go to spirit prison and be “in torment.” Thanks to this vision, we gain insight into the nature of our Heavenly Father. The love He has for us is unimaginable. He is our biggest supporter and He wants us to succeed. Conversely, whenever we use our agency to choose unwisely, we know, “For this shall the heavens weep.”
What is love?
Why would a perfect being without blemish or fault do that? Couldn’t He rise above the pain? Couldn’t He make the affliction go away? If our pursuit is to become perfect, why would a Perfect Being lower Himself? Alma explains, “That his bowels (inner parts – demonstrating great feeling) may be filled with mercy, according to the flesh (our human experience), that he may know according to the flesh how to succor (help in time of distress) his people (us) according to their infirmities.”
The whole point of everything Christ experienced was for us, to help us. We know He helps us become clean from sin. But he also helps us become whole. This means He not only has the power to make us clean but also to heal us. He wants to heal our broken hearts. He wants to strengthen our weaknesses. His mission is “To succor his people according to their infirmities.”
How does He help me?
“For I the Lord am with you, and will stand by you.” How does the Lord stand by us? Is this more figurative than literal? This promise is absolutely literal. A member of the Godhead is our gift when we are baptized and receive the Holy Ghost. The Holy Ghost can be our constant companion to comfort and uphold us. But the promise to stand by us includes something else.
The Lord, our Creator, who knows us better than we realize and who has suffered every deprivation to be able to help us, often works vicariously through other people. The well-timed friend, parent, sibling, aunt, teacher, leader, visiting or home teacher, or anyone at all, can be fulfillment of this scripture. The blessings are doubled because both the recipient and the giver benefit. Whether it is by the comfort of the Holy Ghost or by service of others, Jesus Christ is always the instigator. “For I the Lord am with you, and will stand by you.”
What are my 5 Responsibilities? First, service
Before He left, “He cast his eyes round about again on the multitude, and beheld they were in tears, and did look steadfastly upon him as if they would ask him to tarry a little longer with them.” They weren’t ready for Him to leave. So moved by their experience with Him, they were in tears. But none dared verbalize the request for him to stay. After all, He was going to do the work of the Father, how could they ask Him to stay with them?
Jesus replied, “Behold my bowels (inner parts, meaning great feeling) are filled with compassion towards you.” He healed their sick, blessed their children, prayed with and for them, and instituted the sacrament. This was not a quick act of service to pacify the people. There were 2,500 people gathered together. He made the time to accommodate the people and see to their needs. There is no task that I have that is greater than the work Jesus was going to do for Heavenly Father. If He could take the time to serve, then I can too.
When my brother was called to serve as bishop, he asked several people for advice. The best advice, he states, came from our dad who told him, “It’s about the people.” It’s always about the people first. This is the example we learn from the Savior himself. “Behold,” He said. “My bowels are filled with compassion towards you.”
Second, be faithful
The Lord fulfilled His promise. When it was time for the Israelites to cross the river Jordan, the Lord demonstrated it was Him, not Moses that parted the sea. The Israelites needed to cross the river Jordan to get to the land of their inheritance. The Lord commanded the Ark bearers to enter the water first. As soon as the water came to the priest’s ankles, the river stopped flowing. “And the priests that bare the ark of the covenant of the Lord stood firm on dry ground in the midst of Jordan, and all the Israelites passed over on dry ground, until all the people were passed clean over Jordan.”
It’s a simple lesson. When dealing with faith, sometimes we have to get our ankles wet. It is only after we stand in the water, that we will see the miracle. The priests stayed where they were until every person passed through. “And it came to pass, when the priests of the Lord were come up out of the midst of Jordan, and the soles of the priests’ feet were lifted up unto the dry land, that the waters of Jordan returned unto their place, and flowed over all his banks, as they did before.”
Third, adjust my attitude
In chapter 17 we read the same account of events given from two very different perspectives. First, Nephi explains in verse 2, “And so great were the blessings of the Lord upon us, that while we did live upon raw meat in the wilderness, our women did give plenty of suck for their children, and were strong, yea, even like unto the men; and they began to bear their journeyings without murmurings.”
Did you catch all that? First, they lived on raw meat. May I say, yuck. That sounds like a huge trial to me. But Nephi describes the blessings he saw from this particular problem. Way to see the glass as half full, Nephi!
Laman shares his view a little later in the chapter in verse 20, “…and our women have toiled, being big with child; and they have borne children in the wilderness and suffered all things, save it were death; and it would have been better that they had died before they came out of Jerusalem than to have suffered these afflictions.”
Remember, Nephi and Laman are describing the same events. Laman continues with this common lament in the next verse, “…and we might have been happy.” Oh, if only our lives were perfect without all these troublesome problems, then we might be happy. But if we wait for perfection, we will miss out on having a happy life.
The great trick to life is finding the blessing in the adversity. And we should begin today. Until we can declare with Nephi this testimony he gives in verse 3, “[God] did provide means for us while we did sojourn in the wilderness.”
Fourth, learn to live peaceably with others
Jacob reminds us “And for the selfsame end hath he created them.” We are all here for the same reason. Ranking is a human trait, not a divine quality.
Someone may then argue, why keep the commandments if we will not be loved more than those who do not? Do not confuse the natural order of blessings with being loved. For example, when I was younger, my mom paid for me to have piano lessons. However, if I wanted to play the piano I needed to practice. I could not receive the blessing of being a pianist without the obedience of practice. But when I did not practice did that affect the love my parents have for me? No, not at all. I lost out on the blessing of becoming a pianist but I never lost the love my parents had for me.
We are all here for the same reason with the same goal. Even if some of us do not realize it. We are at different levels of our progression. But we need to be kind to each other because “…the one being is as precious in his sight as the other.”
Fifth, when all is said and done, just come
As I studied the scriptures, I came across the example of the rich young ruler. He came to the Savior and asked how to gain eternal life. Jesus told him the typical answers everyone knew.
The young man, perhaps emboldened by the Savior’s response, pressed further, “What lack I yet?” Maybe he thought the Savior would tell him nothing more was needed. That the young man had done enough and should enjoy his blessings and rich life. Instead, Jesus answered, “If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me.” The young man went away sorrowful “for he had great possessions.”
When I read this scripture many years ago, I related all too well to the young ruler. I wanted to know what to do with my life, but I wanted the answer to be on my terms. This scripture continues to speak to me today. It is a reminder not to let myself be content with what I have. But to always seek to be more charitable and more willing to give my whole soul to Christ. To make sure I’m doing all I can to, “Come and follow me.”
How do I come?
The king asked his son to explain himself and demanded he kill the Nephite. When Lamoni gave an honest explanation that hinted at his recent conversion, the king became irate. He even attempted to kill his own son when Ammon intervened. Ammon overpowered the king and had the opportunity to kill him. The king recognized this and pleaded in verse 23, “If thou wilt spare me I will grant unto thee whatsoever thou wilt ask, even to half of the kingdom.” In other words, the price tag he places on his own life is half his kingdom. Granted, that is no small change.
Ammon’s desire was not in riches. He only wanted to preach the word of God with his brothers and friends. But he was not stupid; he took advantage of the opportunity with two requests. One, the king allow the freedom of his brothers, and two, that he will not be displeased with his son Lamoni.
The king agreed and his heart was touched. He returned to his kingdom but Ammon’s generosity in sparing his life and seeking the welfare of others caused him to think. Later, when Ammon’s brother Aaron came to the kingdom the king had some questions. Aaron answered honestly and testified boldly. The king was so touched by the Spirit of the Lord he declared, “I will give up all that I possess, yea, I will forsake my kingdom, that I may receive this great joy.” Just to keep score, he was willing to give up half his kingdom to save his life. Yet, he was willing to give up all he possessed to gain Eternal Life.
When I shared this account with my young women, I had one say, “This doesn’t make sense. Why would the king be willing to give up his whole kingdom?” The Prophet Joseph Smith taught, “A religion that does not require the sacrifice of all things never has power sufficient to produce the faith necessary unto the enjoyment of life and salvation” (Lectures on Faith).
After reading the king’s conversion, I ask myself, “What shall I do that I may have this eternal life?
My top ten scriptures have provided comfort and a compass for me in my life. I have accumulated them over time through study and being taught by the Spirit. My treasure of ten continues to grow and multiply. Each one that I shared with you has helped me out at different points in my life. Whether it was a behavioral change, or a spiritual awakening, each one has given me direction or comfort. That is why I consider the scriptures a blessing and a gift.
I hope you enjoy my top 10 and I hope it will remind you of your top 10.
I had the opportunity to re-read 1 Nephi 17 this past week. What a great chapter! We have a dichotomy of two very different philosophies of life. Nephi, the younger brother, acknowledges God’s hand in everything and is thankful and even rejoices in the hardships his family experienced. His older brother, Laman, who experienced the same hardships, plays the blame game. He summarizes their hardships with this statement, “We might have been happy.” If only this and if only that. We can’t always choose what life will throw at us, but we can choose our response.