She annoyed me. Something about her just annoyed me and I’m not sure what or why. But she knew how to bring out the pettiness in me and I have no explanation about it. Let’s call her Allison and no, that is not her real name. We’ll call her Allison and I haven’t seen or spoken to her for 13 years.   I met her when I worked in a mail room in a Salt Lake office. We started about the same time. She was young, newly married, and oh, so annoying. For 13 years though I’ve wondered why. What made her so annoying to me? More important, what is the essence of likeability and is it something that we are just born with or can we learn skills to help us become fairly likeable. At least, make it so people don’t want to smack us around whenever we venture to speak. Continue reading →