It is easy to judge. Really, it’s what us humans do best – size up, rank, and file. But before going down that road, here is a skill to learn that will serve the greater good well: be kind.

I haven’t met most people but I am going to venture a guess anyway regarding a typical person. Here it is: that person is doing the best they can. Or they are doing the best they know how. They are just muddling through life like I am. Heaven knows, I certainly don’t have all the answers and I have no idea what is coming around the bend. I am doing the best I can and know how to do at the given moment.

Here’s the thing, that person I am sizing up? That person’s best looks nothing like my best. The best that person can do is maybe 40% of my best or maybe it’s a 150% of what I can offer. And either option is okay. Good for them!

Here’s the great secret to life: we are not in competition with each other. Unless we are on the playing field, we are not opponents. So, why not cheer each other on and support each other?

I recently read an article about an actress who was on a tv show over 20 years ago. Tabloids reported strife behind the scenes between the actress and her costars. Now older and a little wiser she admits she regrets she saw competition amongst her coworkers instead of sisterhood.

Life is short, if you see competition instead of sisterhood you are going to end up with a pile of regrets and missed opportunities. Be a cheerleader. Be supportive. Be kind.

Kindness never piles up regret.